I’m a big believer that wedding planning does not need to be stressful. Will there be stressful moments? Sure. Will things happen that are outside of your control? Of course. But often, when we are caught in the details of planning a wedding, we can easily forget the joys of preparing to marry your best friend. Is it possible to maintain your peace in your wedding planning? Absolutely. Here’s how…
Spend more time preparing for marriage, than for the wedding
Whether you’ve been together for 2 years or 20 years, there are a number of ways you can prepare for marriage. One way to focus your attention on your marriage is to spend the same amount of time going on dates and chatting about your future hopes and dreams, as you do planning the logistics of your wedding day.
Another way is to spend time learning more about each other through marriage preparation courses. Regardless of your background, beliefs or faith, these courses are a fun way to discover things about your partner that you didn’t know! One recent Bride who completed a marriage course said, “the church we are getting married at encouraged us to take a marriage prep course. I don’t have a faith so I wasn’t sure how appropriate it would be to us, but despite being together for years, we learned so much about each other. Now I am so glad we chose to have an open mind and do the course, and would recommend it to anyone getting married, regardless of your beliefs!”
I recommend the Pre-Marriage Course by Alpha which can be done online or in person local to you!
Make a budget and stick to it!
Financial stress is something each one of us is all too familiar with in the current climate. Creating a clear budget, sticking to it, and monitoring your wedding spending will help reduce any money worries. If you are feeling overwhelmed, be sure to plan a time to sit down with your partner and discuss how you can reassess finances together. A problem shared is a problem halved.
Plan in your planning!
This may sound crazy, but consider when you might want to plan the logistical aspects of your wedding based on when works best for you. If planning feels overwhelming, plan at a time that you both feel most relaxed.
My husband and I get tired in the evenings, but we thrive at brunch. We chose to use some of our Saturday mornings to plan our wedding over coffee and brunch in a local coffee shop. If you can plan in your planning at a time that works best for you, you are setting yourselves up for success.
Implement boundaries with planning
Boundaries. Are. Crucial.
Whether it’s boundaries with who you allow to speak into your planning (family members’ opinions!) or boundaries with how much time you spend scrolling Pinterest for ideas, choose boundaries that help you to thrive and enjoy every aspect of planning. Share any boundaries with your partner and then you can support each other in your planning.
I am a Wedding Planner that helps you to find peace in your planning process. Want to find out more? Read some of my story.
